3 Things to Let Go of This Year
by Elizabeth Barrera
We are now in the second week of February. How are those resolutions coming along? I just thought I'd check in since they always seem to be a big deal on January 1st, so I'm sure they still are now, right? At least I think they tend to stay on track until, oh I don’t know, maybe the second or third months of the year. We should always be trying to better ourselves, whether it’s the middle of the year or the end. As long as you take action and you’re not harming others, then you’re set. Typically, these resolutions fall under the physical appearance category, so we get ourselves a gym membership, and promise we're going to start going to the gym at least three times per week. Sound familiar?
First of all, let me say I’m proud of you for getting a gym membership, and I’m extra proud of you if you’ve remained devoted to your resolution. But there are countless other types of resolutions that can benefit us as well, and not just at the start of a new year. Keep in mind that mental health is just as important as physical health. Being physically healthy takes you a long way, but you can always be cut short if your personality traits aren’t in par. So, here are three things you may want to consider letting go of this year:
- Your egotistic attitude. Kill it. Nobody likes you when you’re prideful, conceited, or full of an exaggerated sense of self-importance. With an egotistic attitude, you’re less approachable and you’ll come to find that nobody wants to be around you. Focus on a more altruistic attitude for positive results.
- Gossiping about others. It’s a waste of time using negative energy. It doesn’t benefit you to gossip about others. If anything, you’re gaining a horrible reputation as the person who always has the 411 on everyone. Nobody will trust you, because guess what? When it comes to gossip, the word spreads fast, and our generation is basically the CIA, so good luck with that.
- Being Jealous. Don’t be that person. You’re jealous that your college roommate got a better job than you? Work for it. You’re upset that your boyfriend is too flirtatious with other girls? Tell him. If you’re jealous over something, evaluate its importance, and take action. Being jealous only creates toxicity. Don’t let that happen.
Of course I’m not going to supply you with a list of negative attributes to ditch this year without giving you a list of potential replacements. Below is a list of three positive things you can do to replace the negative ones listed above:
- Love yourself and love others. I’m not telling you to go fall in love with every single person that crosses your path. No. Loving others doesn’t mean falling in love. It means developing meaningful relationships with close friends and family. It means going the extra mile for them, or even being there when they need you the most. Learn to be compassionate and understanding.
- Smile more often. When you smile, your happiness automatically radiates onto others, regardless of the way they’re feeling. If they’re sad, a smile can brighten their day. Never underestimate the power of a smile. You’ll even come off friendly and much more approachable too.
- Be confident. I can’t express how important it is to believe in yourself and be confident. If you’re not confident, then you won’t be able to check mark half of your to-do list. Being confident essentially determines what we accomplish - something that affects our happiness, so go get it.
Once you free yourself from all the negative attributes you were holding onto, you'll realize how much weight you've lifted off your shoulders and the positivity you radiate onto others. You will become more approachable, and people will soon see you in a more positive manner.