Why We Should Never Give Up
By Elizabeth Barrera
It’s easy to let everything go and give up your dreams and aspirations because nothing seems to be lining up. It means you finally have time to breathe, there are no more complications, and worrying is no longer a problem – at least not for a while.
But when you give up, you bar yourself from learning, growing, and becoming a better version of yourself. Life’s tribulations don’t just happen because misery is fun and exciting. All the obstacles thrown at us are meant to help us establish a foundation for ourselves.
Think of all the people you’d be letting down, beginning with yourself. Is this the person you want to be? If you have siblings, think about them. Would you be happy seeing your youngest sibling(s) quit because they’re following your example? What about your parents? Think of the sacrifices they’ve made to ensure you have a decent lifestyle. If you quit right now, all their sacrifices have gone to waste. And if you don't have them, then think about all the friendships you've made. Think about the people who look up to you. Think about how your decision to quit can impact them.
Regardless of it all, an aspiring quitter shouldn’t be a lifestyle.
Sure enough, giving up may be the ideal thing to do (depending on the context). But, wouldn’t you rather know that you did everything you could?
Take me, for instance. I’ve wanted to give up, plenty of times, really. I wanted to give up the moment I made a drunk phone call that altered the stance of my relationship. I wanted to give up the very minute my old housemate decided to not give me a heads up about the eviction that was headed our way and instead I came home to a locked door. I wanted to give up when I got a carpool ticket the same day I found out about my best friend’s mom’s death. I wanted to give up when I found out my boyfriend cheated on me.
I really wanted to give up because all of this was happening to me at the same exact time.
But I didn’t.
And I didn’t give up because I knew these were all tests, and I knew too many people would be disappointed in me if I gave up. I especially knew that I would disappoint myself. I knew I was strong enough to overcome all these tribulations, and it wasn't in my nature to give up.
The only time giving up should even be an option is when you’ve crossed everything off of your list and there is nothing at all you can do. Once you’ve exhausted every possibility and the situation at hand still doesn’t improve, then throw in the towel. Keep in mind that failing will happen often, that's how we learn hard lessons. You'll just keep failing more and more, and that's okay. So ask yourself if giving up will be worth it. Ask yourself if you won't regret this down the line, and really think about it.
But do not shut down after the first fall.
Know your worth, know your potential, and believe in yourself.