How to Overcome When Life Gets Rough

How to Overcome When Life Gets Rough

By Vanessa Palencia

It’s so easy to forget the hard times we’ve been through when life is going so smoothly, but I’m a strong believer that we go through hard times to improve and strengthen our character. Buuut….it’s definitely not easy going through them. In fact, a lot of people can lose themselves and lose sight of what they were working so hard for, which makes the going rougher than it should be.

As an entrepreneur, I can say that there have been so many times that I broke down crying because I was frustrated that despite everything I did, things were not turning out. If it weren’t for my family, I could’ve gone for days, even weeks, just spending time in my bed and letting precious time slink by just because I decided that giving up was better than solving the problem. I get it. Life can be a pain sometimes. It’s so much easier to let the emotional war rage outside than to confront it head on. But girl, trust me when I say that you aren’t doing yourself any favors when you keep up that behavior. I know how you feel. I’ve been there. But if you stop now, then you can say ‘bye’ to everything you’ve ever worked for, and I know that you don’t want that. I don’t want that for you.

I can’t promise you that things will turn around overnight, but I can promise you that by learning how you can overcome those life obstacles, than you can improve your overall life quality. I know it’s easier said than done, but nothing worth having is easy to obtain. With that said, I’m sharing with you a few things I’ve done and changes I’ve made to help me go through these tough times. I hope you find them as helpful as they were to me.

Focus on your goals

When your plans fall apart or you feel like there’s no progress, it’s easy to get disheartened and give up. When this happens, take a moment to yourself and remember why you’re doing what you’re doing. Refuel your passion and find another way to get your goal. Don’t take the first downfall as a sign. Instead, use that time to reevaluate your plan of direction and improve yourself.

Take time to do what you love

Doing things you love, like baking, hiking, or spending time with loved ones, can help lower your stress levels. It’ll allow you to redirect your energy somewhere else and during this process, you can rediscover your confidence and recharge yourself.

Take the negative and turn it into a positive

If life gives you lemons, make lemonade. Super cliche, I know, but it’s the truth. If you get fired from your job, you can either allow it to depress you and let every negative thought swallow you up or you can take control of your life. No one’s perfect. We’re all apt to have negative thoughts, but it’s up to you to decide whether you’re going to acknowledge the negative energy and keep pushing past it or not.  

Change your mindset

You are in charge of yourself. If you believe that you aren’t strong enough or smart enough to create that start-up business or win that competition you signed up for, then you’re right. You aren’t. But if you believe that you can move the mountains and make it rain, then you’re also right. If you find yourself allowing your life obstacles to get the best of you, then you’ll start living out your example. Remember, no successful women made it where they are now by believing that they couldn’t.

Incorporate healthy habits

This is the most important tip. If life seems to be spiraling down, it’s easy to let our diets and nutrition go down as well. If you feed your body with heavily processed foods and sit on the couch all day long moping in your own misery, then you can bet that you won’t be operating at your prime when a new opportunity comes your way. Exercise, whether it’s a walk in the woods or some yoga stretching, can help clear our minds and provide the energy you need to overcome whatever it is you’re experiencing. You have to admit, crying alone in bed can get exhausting, so do yourself a favor and go for a walk instead. Your body and your mind will thank you for it. 


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