Don't Be Afraid of Love

Don't Be Afraid of Love

By Elizabeth Barrera

Love comes in all sizes, shapes, forms, and times. It surprises us in ways that are sometimes unexplainable because of their difficulty. Love can sometimes be complex when we feel it so passionately but can’t seem to understand it, its lack of reciprocation, fulfillment, or letdown. Love is beautiful, but sometimes it’s also painful. Love is imperfect, but it makes us feel warm and cozy. It makes us feel at home.

I’m not an elderly wise person ready to sit my grandchild on my lap and fill them with life-lessons. I’m observant and a “passionate feeler,” however, and I can see what love has been like for me - as a daughter, a sister, a friend, and a partner. I know how I love and I am very much aware of how I’ve been loved in return, or the lack of. Based on my experiences, I can assure you all of one thing: if you love someone, you’ll do anything for them.

Anything, anything, you ask?

My answer: anything.

The problem with so many people today is their fear. Their fear of either losing, winning, looking like a fool, being betrayed, being hurt, falling in love, being torn. It’s one of the saddest things I’ve seen, because you’re risking the awful chance of losing just as much you’re risking the blessing of winning. All those other fears are nothing but excuses.

You weren’t scared to look your manager in the eye and say “I quit”. You weren’t scared of asking them for the raise you knew very well you deserved either. These were all risks you took because each had the opportunity of helping you grow and become a better person. Sure, you could’ve quit and never found a job. You could’ve taken the job offer on the opposite side of the country and completely hated it. But you decided to take a risk. Why? Because in your heart, you knew that there was a chance to be happy. You knew that it could be rewarding. You knew the opportunity deserved a chance, and that’s why you took it.

There is nothing worse than letting a good shot go because of your fears. So if you love them, don’t just tell them. Prove it to them. Drop all your other sources of entertainment (for the lack of a better word), and show them you love them.

And if you don’t love them, that’s okay, too. But it’s only okay if you let them know. No playing games, no waiting days, weeks, months, years. None of that. Let them know how you feel. If you’re going to tell them you love them, then you’re ready to make sacrifices, compromises, and commitments. If you’re not, then let them go.

The last thing they needs is another person giving her reason to think that the next one isn’t worth giving a chance to. So what are you going to do? Are you going to give it a shot or live in fear and constantly wonder “what if”?

Trust is Not Stupid

Trust is Not Stupid

How to Handle Rejection (Like a Nice Person)

How to Handle Rejection (Like a Nice Person)