When A Woman's Fed Up

When A Woman's Fed Up

By Elizabeth Barrera

I, along with a train of women, have given a man one too many chances to swallow his pride and step up his game. Most of the time, however, he ends up losing despite being placed in a win-win situation. I don’t think I can even count the number of times I’ve heard my girls (or me) complain about the things that upset them that their man keeps repeatedly doing. Whether they’re asking for more attention, affection, or support - it’s something that needs to be a constant reminder rather than it first coming from him. It’s frustrating just as much as it’s exhausting and extremely painful.

So I guess I’ll direct this article’s audience to any man reading this.

To the Special Men in Our Lives,

We will give you an almost never-ending amount of opportunities to fix your wrong, to do better and be better to us. We will stand by your side waiting for you to be ready or to make a change.

We will keep reminding you of what we’d like to see, hear, and feel from you. We’ll constantly tell you about our feelings and how certain things you do hurt us. We’ll keep on pressing these conversations onto your stubborn minds because 1) we care and want things to work out and 2) because we love you.

These opportunities to do and be better, however, won’t last forever. They’ll feel like they will, I know. You’ll think, “I’ve got her wrapped around my finger, she’ll do anything for me.” And yes, you’re probably right. But there’s one thing you should also keep in mind: she will get tired.

She’ll get tired of fighting alone for a love that isn’t reciprocated. She’ll slowly begin to give up because she won’t feel wanted or desired or even loved. Her fix-it conversations will begin to diminish, her requests will die down, and the placement of distance will be at an all-time high. You’ll feel yourself losing her and by then it’ll be too late. She’ll have given up on trying to get you to understand what it is that she wanted and needed from you.

The biggest problem is that you don’t or won’t understand how much you’ve hurt her from simply not listening, or from stringing her along, or even making her wait for you. You won’t understand that her love is selfless and nurturing, and that your happiness is her own. You haven’t realized the confusion you’ve caused in her mind and the promises you’ve failed to keep. And slowly, but surely, she’ll be fed up.

Her smile will begin to fade when she sees you.

The fight in her will weaken.

And that’s when you’ll know that you’ve lost her, and at that point, there’ll be nothing you can do about it, because when a woman’s fed up, she’s done.

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